Are we getting closer again?

Even though I consider myself “off the market” right now, I would like to explore human relations as if I were an active member of the group involved.

There are those times in which a night out with friends can end up being the first step into a relationship. You are dancing as if nobody was watching and suddenly a boy approaches you and takes your hand as an invitation to dance together. Everything goes well, conversation is great, he is quite good-looking, and you see him as, at least, someone who you can have a good time with.

Now, what happens when the disco is closing? No, not that! I’m pretty naive and old fashioned so don’t go that way! Come follow my trend of thought: When the night at the disco comes to an end, you both wish to find a way to keep in touch with this new ex-stranger. How do you do that?



The generation before mine, would exchange phone numbers. My generation replaced them with e-mail addresses; cold, non-committal and impersonal e-mail addresses. The conversations held face to face at the disco would carry on through MSN, having no chance to express true emotions properly and giving too much space to misinterpretation.


Later on, e-mail addresses were replaced by cell phone numbers, which seem to be even colder than e-mails but are in fact, in my opinion, a step back to the old telephone numbers that allowed real interaction. Giving someone your cell phone number means so much more than giving out your e-mail address.


But that doesn’t stop there! The last trend is to tell people your facebook alias so that they can find you and add you as their “friend”. Now, of course you have the option of ignoring the request, but you will probably not do it cause you like the boy, remember? Have you noticed that by adding him as your friend you’re opening the door for him to see everything about you? Your family – whom he shouldn’t meet until at least 5 months – your friends – whom he shouldn’t meet until he is really in love with you so that he wouldn’t see some are hotter than you – and your idiotic likes, dislikes, games, posts and everything else that unravel your inner self – which he shouldn’t see until you are married and he has no way to escape.

So, I wonder: aren’t these new technologies drawing us too close as to sabotage love?